They say everything in moderation, but we’re pretty sure that rule doesn’t apply to orgasms. We know they say too much of a good thing is a bad thing — but that’s not the case when it comes to orgasms. That’s why we put together this guide on how to have multiple orgasms. You can thank us later!

Is it possible to have multiple orgasms?

Okay, first of all, what does it mean to have multiple orgasms? The answer may be pretty obvious, but to have multiple orgasms means having more than one orgasm in a single session. When it cums, I mean, comes, to multiple orgasms, they can either be s p a c e d  o u t  or in close succession one right after the other, after the other, after the…you get the point.

Whether you experience distinct individual orgasms that are separate from one another or a series of multiple orgasms that come wave after wave, you may wonder, how many orgasms can you actually have? With most things in life, especially health and wellness, it all depends on the individual — but it’s possible for women (and men) to have multiple orgasms.

How to have multiple orgasms

1. Be careful about how you frame multiple orgasms

Having multiple orgasms isn’t something you set out to achieve but rather it’s something you can explore as a way to increase your, or your partner’s pleasure. Don’t go into a sex session, whether with your partner or yourself, with the sole mission and purpose of achieving multiple orgasms. That’s one surefire way to not have any orgasms — and that would be a travesty. Instead, reframe how you think of multiple orgasms as a happy coincidence of an already really good sexual rendezvous.

2. Discuss boundaries

If you’re exploring multiple orgasms with a partner, then it’s important to discuss and establish boundaries. Talk about what you are and aren’t comfortable with. That includes what body parts are okay and which are off limits — and which positions and types of touch are considered an all systems go and which are a hell no.

3. Put your kegels into action

Sex coach and Velvet Co. sex expert Julieta Chiara says if you want to experience multiple orgasms, put your kegels into action.

“Kegels, aka pelvic floor stimulation, are the root of all orgasms,” says Chiara. “If you practice pumping your pelvic floor muscles up through your genitals and pull towards the belly button, you will feel some fabulous tension in the anal, clitorial, and vaginal areas.”

Experiment with practicing these solo or during sex to be more in control of your climax and you just might bring more than one orgasm to your next sexcapade, whether partnered or solo.

4. Relax

Orgasms, like sex, require energy, so if you’re distracted, exhausted, stressed out, or tired, you may find it challenging to have the energy to be fully present to reach climax once — let alone reach the point of multiple orgasms. 

Before you engage in sexy time with your partner or yourself, just relax. If that’s way easier said than done, do an activity that helps you relax so you can better get out of your head and in the mood.

5. Switch up positions

You may be wondering if there are any specific sex positions that can answer the question of how to have multiple orgasms. The truth is, there aren’t any particular sex positions that are known to help you have multiple orgasms. (Darn!) The key is not just to pick one position but to change it up with different angles, intensities, and types of stimulation to help you (and maybe your partner) achieve multiple orgasms.

6. Treat orgasms like a gym workout

Another multiple orgasm how-to is to treat your orgasms like sets at the gym. Chiara explains it like this: “You do a set, then you take a short break before starting again. This gives your body the ability to relax, then build arousal for more orgasms.”

7. Try sex toys

Speaking of trying different types of stimulation and touch, you may consider adding one or more sex toys into your quest for multiple orgasms. Sex toys can be a great way to switch up sexual sensations.

8. Use different forms of stimulation solo

All too often we can get stuck only climaxing from one form of stimulation, which is why Chiara recommends varying the types of stimulation you play with. This can make your body’s ability to climax more frequent and flexible no matter the (type of) stimulation.

The bottom line on achieving multiple orgasms

If you want to spice up your sex life, try these tips for achieving multiple orgasms. Remember, even if you don’t experience multiple orgasms, you’re still bound to have a good time with your partner or yourself just achieving one. Now go forth and orgasm!