The Elusive G Spot: What Is It, and How Do You Find It?

Although my usual beat is covering natural food trends and topics, I enjoy writing about sexual health topics as well. From the benefits of going braless to the benefits of female masturbation to other sexual wellness topics like orgasming in your sleep, sleeping naked, and even sex tips after a season of celibacy, I love talking about all things sex.

Mainly because I feel like we’re probably all thinking these things and wondering if they’re normal or not — but I find we rarely talk about these topics. So, I decided to write about them in the hopes of inspiring others to begin having these types of discussions.

I couldn’t believe I hadn’t covered the topic of the elusive G-spot yet, so here’s another one for your sexual wellness arsenal: everything you should know about the G-spot.

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What is the G-spot?

In 1950, German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg described a distinct erotic region on the inner upper wall of the vagina. Known as the Gräfenberg spot, the G-spot was then further explored by Dr. Beverly Whipple after she discovered that using the fingers to create a “come here” motion along the inside of the vagina produced a physical response in women. She believed this region could be the key to women achieving orgasm during sex.

About the size of a lima bean, the G-spot is a cluster of nerves and tissues that engorges or changes in sensation when a woman is aroused. I was never good at high school human anatomy (hello, that’s why I’m a writer), but it’s important to note the G-spot is not a distinct part of the human anatomy. (I repeat, the G-spot isn’t a distinct part of the human anatomy, so if you are studying for a test, leave it out.) 

A 2017 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine even confirmed that fact if you need the proof. This is what makes the G-spot complicated, downright elusive, and mysterious at times.

Why is the G-spot such a big deal?

The G-spot is an erogenous zone inside the vagina. As a reminder, an erogenous zone is an area of the body that’s sensitive to stimulation. The G-spot has a lot of mixed reviews. 

According to Medical News Today, some people report stimulation of this area offers an incredible and intense pleasure that’s not achieved through other forms of stimulation. Some say the G-spot causes them to ejaculate (yes, female ejaculation is a thing) and produce more lubrication than usual. 

Others say the G-spot provides a more intense orgasm or allows them to orgasm from vaginal penetration in the first place, which surprisingly is only achieved by 18% of women (orgasm through vaginal penetration, that is). Then there are others who say stimulation of this area is painful and unpleasant. As you can see, the G-spot is a complicated sexual subject.

Okay, so where is the G spot?

Just like every body is designed differently, there will be some variances as to where the G-spot is located — but most women feel the sensation on the inner top wall of the vagina. 

The G-spot is located about two to three centimeters inside the vagina and its location is right under the bladder, which is why some women feel the need to urinate when touching this area. (If you plan on exploring your G-spot with yourself or with a partner, you may want to use the bathroom first, just saying.)

How to find the G-spot

Heather Jeffcoat, a pelvic floor physical therapist and the president of the Academy of Pelvic Health Physical Therapy, says when exploring this area on your own, use your index or middle finger and insert it to about the second knuckle. For extra stimulation, you can self-insert both fingers. 

“Women prefer varying types of stimulation, so explore with different degrees of pressure, shorter versus longer strokes, and different intensities of vibration if you are using a sexual wellness device,” shares Jeffcoat.

For penetrative intercourse, the best positions to stimulate it are really dependent on how much pressure your individual G-spot area likes, explains Jeffcoat. “For more direct pressure, [try] any position where the partners are facing each other but not chest to chest, such as the crab or seated cowgirl,” she says. “For those who like some pressure but want to keep it on the softer side, going into reverse cowgirl or man in missionary will do the trick.”

If you’re wondering how you find the G-spot, here are a few other tips:

  • Apply pressure and stimulation to different areas of the vagina and pay attention to what feels good.
  • Incorporate different sex positions to better access the G-spot area. This includes closed missionary, cowgirl, and doggy style.
  • Practice with yourself or with a partner — whatever you feel the most comfortable with.
  • Try different types of stimulation (i.e., hard, soft, stroking, vibrating).
  • Use a curved sex toy that’s designed for G-spot stimulation.

Get it on with the G-spot

When it comes to the G-spot, or any sexual spot for that matter, don’t be afraid, ashamed, or embarrassed to explore your body and discover what feels good for you and what you like. 

If you can find your G-spot and rock it, that a girl — but if you can’t find it or really don’t want to, then hey, that’s cool too. You do you, boo! 

Most women need a combination of efforts to orgasm, which means it can take patience and time — so have fun and enjoy the process.

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About Ashley Martens

Ashley Martens is a Wellness Writer based in Chicago, Illinois. With a lifelong passion for all things health and wellness, Ashley enjoys writing about topics to help people live happier and healthier lives. With a foundation in fitness, food, and nutrition, Ashley covers it all including sexual health and travel topics.